I have an aversion to the prospect of failing. Read that again. It’s not so much an aversion to actually failing. It’s the prospect of failing. The idea and the possibility of failing are worse than the actual failure.
Because of this, I have an issue with making decisions. Even simple, little decisions. Do I want Mexican food or Italian food? Well I can’t make that decision. What it I get the pasta and regret it because I instead start craving the chips and salsa? I failed myself.
It’s really hard when the decisions hold more than a happy tummy in the balance. Should we just keep engaging in timed intercourse? Or do an IUI? Or do IVF? There are pros and cons to all of them. I don’t want to keep failing at making a baby, but I also don’t want to make rash decisions and spend more money than necessary.
Pros to IUI
Cheaper per cycle @3K/cycle
Could work since his sperm count is increasing
Could work because I have been pregnant multiple times in spite of low count…
Cons to IUI
Pay for 3 cycles up front
Maybe won’t work
No way to weed out bad sperm/eggs, so still chance of miscarrying
Pros to IVF
Great likelihood of success?
Cheaper compared to if we do IVF later
Cons to IVF
No genetic testing, so I could still miscarry
Only one cycle included
Lots of missed work
Will miss my first niece/nephew 😦
~$1000 more than the IUIs
..Aggressive approach (Would I waste extra money on this? Maybe the IUI would have worked…)
The current “plan” is for H to go get another SA. He will do that early next week. We agreed that if his total count has reached 40mill, we will go for the IUI and do the DNA fragmentation test as well. My doc says once you wash and all that, only half of what you started with is “good” sperm. The minimum she likes for an IUI is 10 mill, but the best chance of it working is 20 mill. So, that’s how we arrived at that number.
Part of me thinks that count is impossibly high. But his last SA showed his count more than double in just under two months. It’s been now 3 months, so if it kept up with the trend, it’s possible… but it typically skyrockets, then tapers, so while it’s possible, it’s not probably.
Getting the SA will at least put us at ease in knowing if we are being silly skipping the IUI or if we are just giving us our best shot.
Thoughts, ideas, opinions?